Homo-Homophobia

BY AUSTIN RUSE, MARCH 10, 2017

When the Supreme Court imposed phony marriage on the entire country, the LGBTs were left wondering what to do next, how to keep their issue boiling?

Some of them, chief among them radio host/activist Michelangelo Signorelli, accurately predicted that the conservative Christian response would be to protect religious freedom, that the Christians would beg to be left alone, not forced to participate in morally objectionable religious services.

Other homosexual power centers responded by pushing the transgender thing even though they had never really been interested before. A cursory look at the New York Times demonstrates that there were next to no stories at all about transgenders per se until 2015 in the run-up to Obergefell. Stories went from one or two to more than 1,000 almost overnight.

Both responses had more to do with fundraising and keeping their issue before the public after they had swept the table at the Supreme Court. After all, gay couples could easily find other bakers and other photographers to decorate and commemorate their “nuptials.”

The quite remarkable thing that has happened is they are now willing to talk openly about their way of life. The execrable but nonetheless mainstream gay publication Advocate published a story—by a doctor no less—teaching youngsters how to train their bodies for sodomy. It makes for truly gruesome reading.

He writes, “I often tell patients that great bottoms have been doing it for quite some time, with many first experiencing it in their youth. Unfortunately, no one showed us the right way to bottom in our high school sexual education class. Still, it’s never too late to learn, and we all enjoy new and positive sexual experiences. Here’s my 101 guide to bottoming…”

The publication also ran a piece on how gay men should have regular pap smears for their backsides. Now, these pieces will not be seen outside the homosexual bubble, but even more out in the open are two shocking and revealing pieces just published in the more mainstream Huffington Post.

Keep in mind, if they did not think they had already won everything, they would not be willing to reveal the nasty underside of their way of life.

Chad Felix Greene begins “What Happens When Men Have Sex with Teenage Boys” with this rather arresting opening: “I had sex with a man as a teenager for the first time when I was 14.” He says an older man approached him in a public library and essentially assaulted him. He liked it and kept going back for more. He writes the older man “guided me through the various sexual activities.”

Greene goes on to describe his riotously sexual and dangerous teen years: “at 15 standing outside, alone, in empty parking lots at 1 a.m. waiting for complete strangers to pick me up for sex in their cars.” By 16, he “had had dozens of sexual partners.” When he left high school he said he met more gay guys his own age and he was “shocked to discover nearly all of them had experienced the same thing.”

Greene is now 34 and says he cannot imagine doing the same to a teen boy that was done to him. Even so, what he describes is commonplace, something gays hitherto would be loathe to admit.

The other story published at the Huffington Post is called “Together Along: The Epidemic of Gay Loneliness” by Michael Hobbes. It is thousands of words long and can only be described as a cry of the heart about how awful is Gay World. Hobbes describes the trajectory that separates his gay and sexually normal friends; the sexually normal go off to relationships, marriage, happiness; the gays go off to lives of furtive drug fueled anonymous sex, heavy drinking, porn, and debilitating loneliness. Hobbes cites half a dozen studies demonstrating there is something terribly wrong in Gay World.

They are “between 2 and 10 times more likely than straight people to commit suicide … twice as likely to have a major depressive episode.” Three-quarters of “gay men who have recently arrived in New York City suffer from anxiety or depression, abused drugs or alcohol, or were having risky sex, or some combination of the three.”

Hobbes says, “gay men have fewer close friends than straight people or gay women” and the feeling of emptiness “is not just an American phenomenon. In the Netherlands, where gay marriage has been legal since 2001, gay men remain three times more likely to suffer from a mood disorder than straight men, and 10 times more likely to engage in ‘suicidal self harm’.” In Sweden, which has had civil unions since 1995 and full marriage since 2009, men married to men have triple the suicide rate of men married to women, Hobbes writes.

Hobbes mentions New York, Sweden and the Netherlands deliberately to make a point. Each are relative gay paradises so external “homophobia” cannot be a reason. Hobbes himself was “raised in a bright blue city by PFLAG parents. I’ve never known anyone who died of AIDS, I’ve never experienced direct discrimination and I came out of the closet into a work where marriage, a picket fence and a golden retriever were not just feasible but expected.” Then he says, “I’ve also been in and out of therapy more times than I’ve downloaded and deleted Grindr.” (Grindr is a particularly nasty gay website that allows men to hook up with other men right now wherever they are.)

Hobbes says part of the problem is internalized homophobia, what you might call “homo-homophobia,” but what they call “minority stress.” The theory of minority stress is that a member of a “marginalized” community may experience outright hostility or at the least require extra effort in all aspects of their lives, pressure that most of us cannot know. Maybe. Maybe not.

In their magisterial review of the literature on sexual orientation and gender identity, Drs. Lawrence Mayer and Paul McHugh write,

The social stress model probably accounts for some of the poor mental health outcomes experienced by sexual minorities, though the evidence supporting the model is limited, inconsistent and incomplete. Some of the central concepts of the model, such as stigmatization, are not easily operationalized. There is evidence linking some forms of mistreatment, stigmatization, and discrimination to some of the poor mental health outcomes experienced by non-heterosexuals, but it is far from clear that these factors account for all of the disparities between the heterosexual and non-heterosexual populations.

And not even Hobbes is fully convinced. He says the common gay life is inherently alienating, most especially with the rise of Grindr. But, even more than that, social interaction is vile. He describes coming out as homosexual and eagerly going to West Hollywood to be with his people and discovered “it was really horrifying. It’s made by gay adults, and it’s not welcoming for gay kids.” He says it’s like a jungle. Hobbes’s friend Paul says he felt just like a piece of meat. Moreover, rejection was everywhere and constant. “All of a sudden it’s not your gayness that gets you rejected. It’s your weight, or your income, or your race.”

Gay men in particular are just not very nice to each other, Hobbes reports.

Hobbes’s truly honest piece goes on and on and it is heartbreaking to read, particularly when you know that more and more teen boys have been lied to and are being lured into this noxious germ-ridden and psychologically debilitating stew.

But this is the reality of Gay World that most Americans do not know. It is the reality of Gay World that Homosexual Inc. was eager to hide and that traditional marriage leaders were quite happy to turn away from.

We are now busy defending the religious freedom not to be forced to participate in gay weddings. This is perhaps the most defensive position we could take, and therefore the weakest, and by the way, it is already largely lost. Why should we be able to refuse service to a homosexual wedding when they are just like us and it is legal?

Unless, they are not just like us. The underlying reality of Gay World is ugly and dangerous. Even they are admitting it now. But this is something Traditional Marriage Inc. has refused to consider.

One of our marriage leaders actually said he “honored” the relationships among his gay friends. Recall that super-lawyer Chuck Cooper was planning his lesbian daughter’s wedding at the same time he was badly defending traditional marriage in the California courts. Traditional marriage leaders have resolutely refused to engage Robert Reilly’s sodomy thesis in his Making Gay Okay: How Rationalizing Homosexual Behavior Is Changing Everything.

Some traditional marriage leaders say gay sex has nothing to do with defending marriage and we cannot work to overturn gay marriage unless and until we get our own house in order. They say we ruined marriage and gave homosexuals their opening. In fact, it was the leftist sexual revolutionaries who set out to destroy marriage.

The reality is that even after all the opprobrium heaped on the sacred institution of marriage, most people still want it, they hunger for it. According to Gallup 78 percent of those never married say they want to be married. And when married, people believe in faithfulness. Gallup reports only 10 percent think adultery is morally acceptable and this is up only 3 percent since 2001.

The fact is that the underlying hideous reality of homosexuality has been hidden from Mr. and Mrs. America. Would they be so open to it, if they knew the truth? Would young boys be lured to it if they knew the horrors that awaited them? We will only ever know if someone tells them. Who will that be?

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Austin Ruse is president of C-FAM (Center for Family & Human Rights), a New York and Washington DC-based research institute focusing on international legal and social policy. The views expressed here are not necessarily those of C-FAM.

 

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